Let's talk about SEX, baby!

At the end of pregnancy, sex becomes uncomfortable for some women. With your growing belly, hormone changes, difficulty sleeping, and baby's position, you may not have felt your most sexy. This is perfectly normal, and won't last. But what happens after baby? The idea of postpartum sex can be worrying for some. Your body has been through a monumental change and things feel different. Let's go over a few things to remember before engaging in postpartum sex:

1. Make sure YOU are ready! With most births, you will be cleared for sex at your postpartum appointment. This means that your cervix is closed, usually postpartum bleeding has stopped, and your stitches/tears are healed. This does not mean you will be ready. Pregnancy and birth are hard on a woman's body and every woman is different. While some women may feel great at 3 weeks postpartum, others may take longer to get back to normal. Listen to your body, above all else, and let it guide you. You will know when the time is right.

2. Things will probably feel different. Let's be honest here, you've just had a tiny human come barreling out of your vagina, that's bound to change things! If you've had a cesarean section, your vagina has still gone through changes, not to mention your abdominal muscles are still healing. Don't be concerned that things won't go back to normal! Things will be different, yes, but that's ok. Embrace the change that this new chapter in your life will bring.

3. Lube, lube, lube! The hormonal changes associated with giving birth can wreak havoc on your natural lubrication. In my experience, this is one thing that takes the longest to regulate. Fortunately, this is something that can easily be remedied. Stock up on a natural lube, like coconut oil, and use a ton of it! Bonus: coconut oil is wonderful for the skin!

4. Go slow! Foreplay is your friend now more than ever. Don't rush things, let you and your partner take time getting to know your body again. Rushing things can be uncomfortable besides, who complains when sex takes longer??

5. Do you need birth control? Your body needs some rest between pregnancies so be sure to use some sort of birth control. Natural family planning, breastfeeding (following certain guidelines), a diaphragm, and the mini pill are a few options that shouldn't effect your supply.

These are just a few things to remember as you and your partner get back into the swing of things. It all comes down to listening to your body. Don't be afraid to ask your doctor/midwife/doula if you have any questions!